Izinto ezintle ngokudada: I-equinox yasentwasahlobo idlulile, kwaye imihla yeentyatyambo zasentwasahlobo ikude kakhulu?

Ixesha laseNtwasahlobo lidlulile, imvula enkulu isiya ibetha, umoya uthambile, umoya ubonakala uhlaziyekile, indawo entle iya intle ngakumbi. Kuyabonakala ukuba imihla yaseNtwasahlobo iyeza, yonke into iqala ukuvuka ebuthongweni bayo, yonke into iba ntle kakhulu.
“Ukuba ubomi bungumlambo okusa endaweni yamaphupha akho, ngoko ukudada yintsomi engenakuphepheka.” Utsho njalo umbhali weendaba nombhali ophumelele amabhaso e-ABC uLynne Cher kwincwadi yakhe ethi, Better to Swim. Ezo zinto zintle malunga nokudada ngamaza okwenyani emlanjeni wobomi bethu… Uyakhumbula “uthando” lwakho nedama lokudada? Linokutshintsha umzimba wakho, ingqondo yakho kunye nobomi bakho bonke.
1. Wonke umntu unobomi bakhe bamanzi
Ichibi lokudada lihlabathi elincinci, apho unokubona khona ubomi, wonke umntu unenxalenye yakhe yobomi bamanzi.
Mhlawumbi usandul’ ukuqala ukufunda ukudada, kwaye yonke into malunga nedama lokudada itsha kwaye ayibonakali. Ukongeza kuqeqesho olunzima, uya kubukela ngokuzolileyo indlela abadada ababaleka ngayo ngokukhululekileyo, indlela yokungena emanzini, ukuzolula, ukupompa, ukuphefumla, ukujika, ukuva nokubala ukuphindaphinda kotshintsho ngalunye.
Ngexesha lokubukela, usenokuba nomdla wokwenza izinto ngokungakhathali nangomzamo wokulingisa kwakho, kodwa akunamsebenzi, la maqhula anomdla angundoqo ekukhuleni kwezakhono zakho zokudada kwixesha elizayo.
Mhlawumbi sele "ulidama lokudada elibhabhayo" emehlweni abo bonke, njengombhukudi onobuchule, edamini lokubona abafazi abahle? HAYI, ulonwabo lokudada lubaluleke ngakumbi kuwe kunokujonga abafazi abahle!
Uyonwabela ngokupheleleyo inkululeko yamanzi, kodwa ukwafumana neentloni zokujongwa ngabanye abantu. Ngalo lonke ixesha amanzi enyuka ehla, unokuziva amehlo akho athandekayo akujikelezileyo, kwaye nabanye abalandeli baya kuza kuwe ngqo ukuze bafumane iingcebiso zokudada.
Mhlawumbi, uzele nje ukukhulula uxinzelelo emanzini, awungomntu othanda ukudada, usemanzini, uqhele ukuzola, ukuthula okanye ukucinga, kodwa umahluko kukuba echibini, kuba lula kuthi cwaka, kodwa kulula nokuhleka...
2. Yenza umzimba wakho ubonakale umncinci — ayikokuba ube sempilweni nje kuphela kwaye unciphise amanqatha
Siyawathanda amachibi okudada, ewe, kuba nawo anezibonelelo ezininzi zempilo.
Kutheni xa kufikwa ekunciphiseni ubunzima, ukudada kusoloko kuhlonitshwa njengomdlalo, kuba i-coefficient yokuqhuba ubushushu bamanzi ingaphezulu ngokuphindwe ka-26 kunomoya, oko kukuthi, kubushushu obufanayo, umzimba womntu ulahlekelwa bubushushu emanzini ngaphezu kwamaxesha angama-20 ngokukhawuleza kunomoya, nto leyo enokusebenzisa ubushushu ngempumelelo. Abantu baye babona izihlunu ezilinganayo kunye namagophe athambileyo aziswa kukudada emzimbeni. Kodwa okubaluleke ngakumbi ziingenelo kumathambo anzulu kunye nenkqubo yokujikeleza kwegazi yomzimba. Ukudada kwenza izihlunu zamathambo zibe lula ngakumbi, kodwa kukwakhuthaza ukukhutshwa kolwelo lokuthambisa kwimiqolo yamalungu, kunciphisa ukungqubana phakathi kwamathambo, kwaye kuphucula amandla amathambo; Xa kudada, izihlunu ze-ventricle ziyaqiniswa, amandla egumbi lentliziyo ayanda kancinci, inkqubo yokujikeleza kwegazi yonke inokuphuculwa, kwaye izinga le-metabolic iyonke yomzimba womntu linokuphuculwa, ngoko ke abadada ixesha elide baya kubonakala bebancinci kunontanga babo.
Umlingo wokudada awupheleli apho… Umbhukudi wase-Australia u-Annette Kellerman kwafuneka anxibe isongo sentsimbi esinzima emlenzeni wakhe esengumntwana ngenxa yesilonda sethambo, esabangela ukuba umzimba wakhe ungakwazi ukuba mhle njengabanye amantombazana aselula, kodwa watshintsha umzimba wakhe ngokudada waza waguquka kancinci waba yi-mermaid, waza wadlala nakwimuvi kwixesha elizayo.
Abantu abaninzi kwihlabathi liphela bayakuthanda ukudada, ukongeza kwiingenelo zomzimba, kodwa kuba kuzisa iimvakalelo ezintle ezingachazekiyo engqondweni.
3, Vumela ingqondo ikhululeke ngakumbi – “Emanzini, awunabunzima okanye ubudala.”
Xa bethetha ngothando lwabo lokudada, abantu abaninzi abathanda ukudada baza kwabelana ngamabali abo okukhula ngokomoya. Emanzini, awufumani nje kuphela ukuphumla, kodwa ufumana nobuhlobo nesibindi…
“Ngequbuliso, umthwalo omkhulu waba nzima,” watsho ngomdla omnye umama oselula, ekhumbula ulonwabo lokudada eCaribbean xa wayekhulelwe iinyanga ezintlanu. Wakha wahlushwa kukudandatheka ngaphambi kokukhulelwa, wakhulula lonke uxinzelelo lwakhe echibini, wadibana kancinci kancinci namanzi acwengileyo nacocekileyo. Wachacha kancinci kancinci kukudandatheka kwakhe ngaphambi kokukhulelwa ngokudada rhoqo.
Umbhukudi okwiminyaka ephakathi wabhala kwidayari yakhe: “Ukubhukuda kundizisele abahlobo kunye nobuhlobo… Abanye abantu esinokudibana nabo yonke imihla, kodwa singathethi nto, kodwa ukubakho kwethu kunye nokunyamezela kwethu kukhuthazana kwaye kuyabaxabisa; Sikwadle isidlo sangokuhlwa nabanye babahlobo bethu basechibini, sathetha ngokudada, sathetha ngobomi, kwaye ewe, nabantwana. Ngamanye amaxesha sinxibelelana kwi-intanethi kwaye sinikana ulwazi malunga nezakhono zokudada.”
“Kwidama elinye lamanzi, eli dama lamanzi linciphise umgama phakathi kwethu, sincokola, sithetha, akukho nto iluncedo, akukho njongo, kuphela nje wonke umntu othanda ukudada……”
Eli ligunya lokudada ukuze kusondelelane abantu. Ngexesha lobhubhane, wonke umntu uqhelisela umzimba aze abhukude ngovuyo!